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How to deal with an emotional ex if you are considering him to be your ex love partner for your making up relationship?

 

 

 

 

Does your ex call you often and tell you they miss you? Perhaps they’re cold one minute and hot the next. Their attitudes and behaviour change depending on the day of the week and you’re unsure what is really going on inside that head of theirs.

 

First of all, emotional ex’s usually spell trouble. If you’re dealing with one, protect your heart because it’s likely they will break it again… and again. Usually they’re the immature type that haven’t done enough growing up yet and their wants and needs change depending on the weather of the day.

 

Sure they can be lovable but they also turn on and off like a switch. Be careful and guard yourself!

 

You sure you want to get back together with an emotional ex?

 

If you want to get back with your emotional ex, you have come to a right article!

 

Building Great Relationships with Emotional Intelligence Tools

 

The best things in life depend on our ability to create and maintain great relationships. Success, happiness, and the ability to give and receive love all hinge on our relationships. Most of us do a good job with relationships at the start. But why do we so often stumble down the road? Why do relationships develop such challenging problems?

Learn the five key emotional intelligence skills we need to build great relationships and heal relationship problems.

 

How does emotional intelligence help our relationships?

Emotions are the building blocks of each relationship in our lives, and the power of those emotions cannot be overlooked. Emotions override our thoughts and profoundly influence our behaviour.

 

Emotional intelligence is the ability to recognize, control, and effectively communicate our own emotions, and to recognize the emotions of other people. Emotional intelligence skills allow us to use our emotional building blocks to construct a solid foundation for communication. Well-developed emotional intelligence skills are a better predictor of success in all areas of life (and particularly in relationships) than the traditional measurement of high cognitive intelligence, or IQ.

 

As the foundation for all verbal and nonverbal communication, emotional intelligence:

 

Empowers you to build healthy new relationships

Helps you strengthen existing relationships

Helps you to better understand other people

Helps you to better understand yourself

Enhances your abilities to communicate effectively

Emotional Intelligence Is Not Something You’re Born with-It’s Learned

Social and emotional experience starts in infancy with the child’s attachment relationship to his or her mother, or primary caretaker. If you are lucky, and had caretakers who recognized, understood, and responded to your emotional needs as a baby, you integrated the emotional and intellectual parts of your brain and absorbed a skill set that formed the basis of Emotional Intelligence.

 

 

If the attachment relationship isn’t secure, the emotional parts of the brain do not become well integrated with the intellectual parts. The personal and interpersonal skills needed to sustain great relationships will be weak or flawed. But because these skills are learned, they can also be acquired later in life-if absorbed in social and emotional contexts that attract the brain’s attention!

 

 

Test Your Emotional Intelligence

What is your current emotional intelligence skill level? Most of us have relationship problems at times with co workers, acquaintances, friends, relatives, or other people we care about. Your emotional intelligence is your set of key relationship skills that help you establish strong relationships and deal with relationship problems. Find your emotional intelligence skill level by answering usually, sometimes, or rarely to the questions in this quick relationship quiz.

 

 

Do you maintain contact when talking to most people? Or are you quick to answer your cell phone-and easily distracted by things having nothing to do with the conversation? Are you comfortable with pauses? Do you feel at ease when no one is speaking? Or if something in the conversation strikes an emotional nerve, is that okay? Do you sense when someone feels troubled before being told? Can you walk into a meeting and immediately tell who may be upset?

 

 

Do you judge or criticize some of your emotions or feelings? Do you pay attention to your gut feelings when making important decisions? Would you do or not do something that seemed logical because you have a contradictory feeling? Do you immediately notice when you become stressed? Do you know how to quickly and dependably reduce stress to a comfortable level? Do you easily laugh, play or kid around with others? Do you use humour to negotiate differences or rough spots?

Can you easily face up to differences? Or do disagreements with colleagues, friends or loved ones feel threatening?

 

 

Answering “usually”, to most of the questions indicates that you have a good start toward emotionally intelligent communication in your relationships. If your answers were primarily “sometimes” or “rarely”, you may need some help with your Emotional Intelligence - but it’s never too late to learn these skills and raise your emotional intelligence abilities. You can improve your current relationships, and forge strong new ones-both in your personal life and the workplace.

 

 

Five tools for emotional intelligence to help build and maintain great relationships

By incorporating the five basic tools of Emotional Intelligence, you can enhance your relationships in the workplace, at home and in all areas of your life.

 

 

1. The Elastic helps you reduce stress and avoid emotional overload

Out of control stress triggers knee-jerk fight or flight responses that make us feel like running or fighting -but not much of anything else. When this happens, and it commonly does, our emotions and the emotions of others can seem threatening and overwhelming.

 

 

2. The Glue helps you stay emotionally connected to yourself and others emotionally intelligent communication is fundamentally nonverbal, emotionally-driven communication. Emotion points us in the direction of what we really need, and is our primary source of motivation. Remove the emotional parts of the brain, and people lose their desire to do much of anything.

 

 

3. The Pulley helps you attract and hold the attention of others

Nonverbal communication is the lifelong pulley that consciously or unconsciously sends either positive or negative signals to others. Nothing reveals more to others about us, or attracts others to us, than wordless communication.

 

 

4. The Ladder helps you rise above life’s difficulties

All emotional exchange strengthens relationships, but sharing humour and the delight of play adds a unique restorative healing element, Mutual playfulness reduces stress, defuses anger, mends fences, and lifts spirits.

 

 

5. The Velvet Hammer helps you handle conflict in a positive way

Painful upset is an unavoidable part of life. But conflict resolved is a velvet hammer that can be a cornerstone for trust between people. When conflict isn’t perceived as threatening or punishing, it fosters freedom, creativity, trust and safety in relationships.

 

 

 

These 5 relationship tools will:

 

 

Help you see yourself and others in a new light , Help you recognize the difference between damaging communication and helpful communication , Help you discover resources for remaining calm and focused, regardless of the circumstances , Help you discover and improve your emotional awareness , Help you find more playfulness and joy in your relationships, at work or at home.

 

 

The relationship tools can enable you to transform conflict, using it as an opportunity for building trust and avoiding resentment, Emotional intelligence skills will have a dramatic effect on your relationships at home and at work. Each article in this series will guide you through exercises, quizzes, and examples that will help you learn specific emotional intelligence ability.

 

 

As you acquire each ability, you will increase your emotional intelligence and your ability to master the next skill. In the end, you will get to know a newly empowered individual-yourself-and become very comfortable with your ability to attract the respect and affection of others.

 

Indeed, life is short. Don’t let another day go by without taking a chance on happiness. You will never know until you try, so remember to make a move today. It can change or affect the rest of your life, therefore, at the very least, you can try to come out something for your ex love partner during your weekend plans. With a little practice, perseverance and patience, I believe that your relationship could be enhanced with the tips that I have shared earlier. If you have faced any problems with your loved ones, do not hesitate to visit this piece of article again. I really have a strong belief that if you can understand what I have explained and applied what you have learnt from this piece of article, your problems can be eventually solved and your making up relationship can become more stable and stronger. I wish all the best for your making up relationship with your partner. Do always remember to spread word of mouth to your fellow friends for supporting the decision of having making up than breaking up.

 

 

 

How to get your girlfriend back?

 

 

Watch a video that shows you exactly what you must NEVER do, what you should do to get your ex back and why at http://www.squidoo.com/how_can_i_retrieve_my_ex_lover_back

 

 

You will also learn how to reverse the situation if you have already done those things that should NEVER be done.

 

 

 



By: dhlim88

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amanjo asked:

Elaine subplot from Seinfeld episode “The Frogger.” Too many cake parties at work drives Elaine mad until she realizes she misses the sugar rush.

In Part 1 of this article, I discussed relationships from the point of view of how people’s energies resonated and how their energies affected a relationship. I also discussed what I call “Learning Relationships.” Please see Part 1 for this information. Let’s continue with Part 2:

Healing and Purpose-Specific Relationships

“Through Love, thorns become roses,

Vinegar becomes sweet wine,

The stake becomes a thorn,

The reverse of fortune seems good fortune,

A prison becomes a rose bower,”…

-Rumi

“The greatest healing therapy is friendship and love.”

-Hubert H. Humphrey

“Until the Real Thing Comes Along”

-Sammy Cahn

Even though I’ve focused thus far on learning relationships in which the dysfunction or problematic resonates, I’d like to add that certainly not all relationships are learning relationships and, additionally, that not all learning relationships are difficult or unpleasant. Aside from true soul mate relationships that most of us aspire to find and be involved in, there are other types of romantic relationships as well. Some of these other non-soul mate relationships may be pleasant, but don’t have a real “charge” to them, so that the people in them feel comfortable, but don’t feel inspired or really in love. The relationship may be pleasant or comfortable and non-challenging, but may also feel bland. I have seen several clients in relationships like this and have found that there is usually a purpose that this type of relationship serves.

One of the purposes for relationships such as this is to provide a healing aspect or soothing or comforting experience for those involved in the relationship. In other words, one or both of the people involved may have been through a particularly difficult or draining relationship or experience, or even a series of such relationships, and the pleasant but bland relationship affords him/her the opportunity to heal from the other relationship(s). This type of relationship, the healing relationship, thus represents a relationship that affords R and R (rest and relaxation). This gives those involved the opportunity to be in a romantic relationship at the same time that they are healing from the draining relationship or experience, rather than attempting to recoup while alone.

I have further seen other positive relationships, which, even though they are still not the true, partner relationship, serve the purpose of “introducing” a person to the qualities and dynamics of a good relationship, while also allowing him/her to re-pattern his/her normal mode of relating. This may be the first positive relationship a person has ever been in, and the situation allows the person to experience the dynamics of a healthy relationship for the first time, while also sometimes gaining practice being in a good and non-dysfunctional intimate relating situation. Thus, re-patterning relationships such as this, even though they’re not with the true soul mate, serve as a mechanism by which one can re-pattern his/her traditional (and often unhealthy) role in a relationship and can learn instead to play a healthier role and experience more positive dynamics.

Another type of positive, but non-soul mate, relationship occurs when two people are going through similar things or are working (either growth-wise or career-wise) on similar issues. In other words, they are paralleling each other in some way with regard to growth or experience. This type of relationship, the paralleling relationship, affords them support, whether explicit, through mutual discussion of what they’re each going through, or implicit, through an unconscious awareness of their shared experiences, as well as insight on the shared issue(s) they’re going through, as they share experiences with each other. Paralleling relationships can subtly give those in them energy, instead of their being in a difficult learning relationship that could drain their energy.

Some relationships may represent a combination of some of these types of relationships. As you can see from these pleasant, but non-soul mate types of situations, relationships will generally come into existence for a reason, whether we’re aware at the time of what that reason may be or not.

In addition, I have also seen people in non-soul mate or -partner relationships for more mundane reasons. They may have a rational, rather than emotional, reason for being in a certain relationship and may decide to be in the relationship out of a rational motivation. In other words, the mind may be engaged in the relationship, but not the heart. This could be, for example, because the person feels that he or she is ready to get married and/or wants children and just looks for someone to marry. I’ve seen some clients come up with a laundry list of what they want in a marriage partner, based upon external or superficial considerations (e.g., makes a certain income, is a certain height, drives a certain car, lives in a certain type of house, even how they look as a couple to others), rather than what the person is really like either on the inside or in habits or personality traits – or even how they feel about them. I have even seen some clients make a decision to marry someone because that person had one attribute that they wanted in a mate (for instance, a calm and steady temperament), irrespective of the fact that they really felt no emotional connection to or love for their future partner. This type of consideration is often a recipe for a future failed relationship, especially when the emotional component is lacking and there is, in its place, a preference for the rational and feeling-less element in the decision-making process.

I have also seen some clients decide to enter into — and doggedly stay in — relationships for financial security, although this motivation may be understandable for women in a society that has traditionally undervalued women economically. Whether one can stay permanently in such relationships depends upon the person and his/her priorities. However, I have often seen clients in relationships such as this who were miserable and whose hearts were crying out for true resonance and connection. The lessons in these relationships may have to do with independence, going to a deeper level, being true to oneself, or any number of other realizations.

Soul Agreements

The highest compact we can make with our fellow is, — “Let there be truth between us two forevermore.”

-Ralph Waldo Emerson

As I continued to explore different types of relationships, I started to question how they came about, especially the major learning ones in which the experiences may have been so unpleasant and the corresponding lessons gained so profound that it felt that there had to be a reason, or mechanism, behind the two people coming together in such a fashion — a reason or mechanism that existed on a higher level than just the “pull” (sexual, emotional, conundrum, or whatever) that was felt on this three-dimensional level. In other words, I felt that there had to be some additional, invisible factor bringing this type of situation about, other than two people whose stuff fit together so intricately and perfectly just meeting each other by chance or randomly — a factor that existed perhaps on a higher level. As I started to ask for insight about this, I began to get information on what I now call “soul agreements.”

A “soul agreement” is an agreement made between souls while not in body (i.e., before the lifetime that the agreement is about) to encounter each other in a lifetime, interact (whether in a romantic, familial, friendship, work, or other type of way), and affect each other in some fashion, usually for learning, sharing, supporting, or otherwise stimulating each other’s growth or unfolding. As with difficult learning relationships, the soul agreement may be to stimulate each other’s working on his/her inauthentic stuff.

There are many different types of soul agreements. For example, some soul agreements exist for just one specific lifetime. I have seen other soul agreements that ran through several lifetimes. I have seen both soul agreements that are for a very specific purpose (as a case in point, that the people involved will meet at a specific time in their lives to accomplish a specific thing) and others that are for more general purposes (for example, that the people involved will have a lifelong acquaintance with each other that is pleasant and mutually beneficial). I have seen soul agreements in which the souls have agreed to always interact throughout lifetimes for the same purpose or lesson and others in which the souls always interact, but the way in which it is expressed and the purpose it serves may vary from one lifetime to another. To illustrate this point, some souls may agree to always interact in an antagonistic way to stimulate each other’s growth, while others may vary the qualitative feel of the interaction over lifetimes, experiencing a congenial connection in some lifetimes and a more abrasive or antagonistic connection in others.

Hence soul agreements are made in the non-corporeal state when we choose and plan our lives and represent a behind-the-scenes factor for our involvement and interaction with others in the here and now, and, because they are mutual agreements on the soul level, there is no “blame” or judgment attached to the interactions, even if they are negative or unpleasant in any way.



By: Diane Brandon

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EckhartTeachings asked:

Eckhart explains the egos role in love relationships.

The romance wikipedia is an online tool that is designed to give you all the information you need about romance and love. This is your one stop shop for all your romance information needs. The onset of technology has ensured that information is brought close to us. For this reason, more and more people are finding the opportunity to look into some solutions that will remedy some of the problems they might have. When it comes to romance in a relationship, there are so many things that can go wrong. In this fast paced environment, many things seem to go wrong very often. It is therefore necessary to employ help from the romance wikipedia so that you can get some insights into love and romance. First, the definition of romance is pretty vital. It will enable you know the rightful place of romance in your life. There are so many couples who have never experienced what true romance is all about. Information is power and the wikipedia will provide all the wisdom you need for a better love relationship.

Romance is that sensual affection that comes from deep inside our hearts. It is a deep language that is able to bring together couples who are feuding in perfect harmony. Romance often leads to sex but, it has been described as greater as or deeper than sex. Therefore, a deeper understanding into romance will have the capacity to transform your life and that of your partner. The romance wikipedia is a well of wisdom and, it is time to go online and read it for you. There are so many other things that the romance wikipedia will touch on. You will get an opportunity to learn a bit of history about romance. You will get to know some of the greatest love stories as told by novels and books of romance. All this is supposed to translate into a valuable lesson for you. Become a student of the wikipedia and you will not be disappointed. There are many things that you can do to show romance to your spouse. It is vital to have genuine love in your heart for your partner.

It is through real affection that people are able to show true romance. The romance wikipedia will provide examples of some of the areas of romance that you can explore. Romance is what you do and say. It must encompass your life if you truly want to win in the game. You must have a partner who feels the same way and, is able to return the romance in a mutual manner. The wikipedia will provide you with so many facts and between the words; you will capture the very essence of true romance. Families have come together because of the resurrection of romance. Therefore, this is a topic that needs much of your attention. You are bound to have so much fun, when you are getting this information on the free wikipedia for romance. Romance is the perfect remedy for your union with or without problems.



By: Francis Githinji

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A romance forum is a platform in which you get the opportunity to share ideas about romance. In this age, you will find many forums which are dedicated to talking about romance. This is a complete shift from what used to happen in the past. In the olden days, romance for some communities was taboo. People were not totally free to discuss the issues that were affecting them. Ironically, this is an age where romance has been found to be on the decline in many relationships. There are many factors to blame for this and, one of them is the lost value for companionship. Today, it is more or less for convenience. People are getting married so that they can look good for society. Others are getting married for sexual satisfaction. Romance has been given the boot. It is important to understand what romance is before you go looking for it. A good romance forum will enable you know the various definitions from all points of view.

I came across a romance forum that made me put into words what romance really is. It is the essence of companionship. It is what you do when you love someone deeply. Romance can also be described as a sure way to show commitment and love in a relationship. It is being intimate and I’m not talking about sex alone. Intimacy which is a part of physical pleasure is romance. However, it becomes very hard to divorce intimacy and romance; they are one and the same thing. To keep the romance alive in a relationship, a lot of work has to go into it. There is something very innocent and sincere about romance. Therefore, for you to rekindle the romance in your relationship, you have got to come clean and be vulnerable to your partner. Romance needs to be very pleasurable if you are going to do it right. It comes from the heart and soul. If you think you need more help in the department, visit or join a romance forum. You will be amazed at the ideas and insights from others.

An online romance forum will enable you get all you need in a fast an efficient way. You can also join in and give your views. You can also go to forums of romance at venues. In your area, find out about such workshops because they are very popular. Here, you will get to interact with real people as you get to learn much that will play a major role in improving your love life. The forums are necessary for both men and women. Partners are both responsible to keep the magic or romance alive. Sometimes, a lot is expected from the men and women get so frustrated. Instead of feeling this way, why don’t you take the first step to be romantic? When you do it right and sincerely, your partner will appreciate your effort and your mission will be complete. The secret is to keep being romantic; this way, you will not only survive your relationship but, enjoy every step of the way.



By: Francis Githinji

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Why the men and women have to consider making up the relationships instead?

 

 

 

It is very sad to witness some Singaporean couples choose to end the relationships so abruptly, without giving any chances for themselves to correct their mistakes, and show their love in the relationship. These are getting more and more common for most couples who have the mentality to choose in this direction as they are being affected by the external factors like the working to achieve big dreams, working for more money, etc. They just focus on that area, and have not spared any extra time to invest in the relationships. This is so much evident because the Singaporean can be classified as “greedy” ones who want to lead a luxurious, comforting, relaxing life by doing well, scoring well, achieving more, having more qualifications to make oneself more stabilised. The men is especially the type who have chosen to make themselves more successful because they tend to prove the world that they can contribute to the society and of course, they can have an entire family if their relationship has blossomed and entered into the marriage stage.

 

 

Most couples prefer to have that nowadays, however, as times go by, thinking change, more and more couples do not prefer to look into work qualification or even education that matter, whether the relationship with their love ones do matter for their entire lifespan. If their relationship is getting stable, trustworthy, and supportive, then the chances of being together are extremely higher. The men and women will of course dream to be that. In contrast, the world is revolving into the realistic and sophisticated society, the people, whether how young adults, older adults are also become more complicated, some look at the money that earned by both parties, whether these could make themselves survive in their entire love life. Some of them tend to consider their personality that match well, and then consider engaging into the relationship. There are also some who wish to be with the perfection list, in other words, everything must be perfect, and there is no error in between. However, this is so rare to find, I guess there is no such perfect person in this world. Nevertheless, this has been evident as the girls are demanding very high, which cause the men hard to decide for themselves what can they do to satisfy the girls’ expectations and requirements.

 

 

Often, when these happen, the men and women will have to end their relationships, it is very disheartening as both sides do not have the considerations to think that they are pretty good, just the fact that their expectations were not reached. The relationships in fact can be very complicated; however, they can be much simpler if any sides, whether guys or girls, men or ladies are not so calculative, complacent, and demanding to have the best relationships. A simple relationship is very good because this shows that they do not mind their negative traits in between them, they can give, take and understand both sides very well. They do not mind sharing and helping each other, which I guess they are so loving and often do not have the thought of ending their relationships. This is so romantic for some of them who are very in love for one another.

 

 

Why I will say that why men and women have to end their relationships, they find that they could not be together and they sometimes come to a sudden halt or an unexpected decision to quit involving in the relationship as quickly as possible, hoping that it does not last much longer and hurt each other so drastically. They probably realise that they have made a wrong mistake to be with a wrong partner in the relationship, thus they choose to end their relationships as early as possible. Some partners want to end their relationship, but they really have to take more courage to do that. Some have no much choice to ponder and have decided to end it quickly. That is because it could be a wrong move to be involved in the relationship. It is up to each individual as to whether what kind of relationships they prefer to have. If you are a man, understand certain things about the nature of women.

 

 

These are the three points which probably can trigger your mindset to continue in their relationships, Women like to be appreciated. How did you score in this area? Have you appreciated what she did for you? Also, the women like to be complimented. How many times have you complimented her either on her looks, her dress sense or any other area of your lives together where one will have be warranted. Thirdly, women don’t like to be taken for granted. They prefer to pay particular detail to attention. They want all the things to be appreciated by the guys who the girls really like to be with. However, what can normally drive the men out of the relationships, this is probably a tricky and think out of the box question, On the other hand, men will leave women for different reasons. Here is a couple of interesting ones; the men like to be admired. They also like to feel wanted. As for myself, I also like to feel the same way too.

 

 

As a woman, how to you score with both of these points? Also, the men hate being nagged. We don’t say this to offend women but how many times have you picked faults in your man? It is a classic syndrome which develops in a relationship over time. What once was acceptable to a woman and admired of her man, now no longer strikes a chord. Yes, you can be critical but here is the kicker, you also need to balance it out with expressions of admiration for the things he does do well in your book. That is why the men and women often broke up for these various reasons that I have explained.

 

 

I hope that if you guys, whether you are a male or female, do always consider all those points, so that you can always avoid having the similar mistake and problems that gave the relationships problems. I wish all of you the best luck and the future endeavor.

 

 

Indeed, life is short. Don’t let another day go by without taking a chance on happiness. You will never know until you try, so remember to make a move today. It can change or affect the rest of your life, therefore, at the very least, you can try to come out something for your ex love partner during your weekend plans. With a little practice, perseverance and patience, I believe that your relationship could be enhanced with the tips that I have shared earlier. If you have faced any problems with your loved ones, do not hesitate to visit this piece of article again.

 

 

I really have a strong belief that if you can understand what I have explained and applied what you have learnt from this piece of article, your problems can be eventually solved and your making up relationship can become more stable and stronger. I wish all the best for your making up relationship with your partner. Do always remember to spread word of mouth to your fellow friends for supporting the decision of having making up than breaking up.

 

 

 

Can I get back together with ex lover? Maybe your situation is not covered in this article?

 

 

Watch a video that shows you exactly what you must NEVER do, what you should do to get your ex back and why at http://hubpages.com/hub/howshouldiwoomyexback

 

 

You will also learn how to reverse the situation if you have already done those things that should NEVER be done.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 



By: dhlim88

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