LOVE SAYINGS & ROMANCE QUOTES

Stephen Seretan asked:


I thought I would write about the subject of Love from Lester’s viewpoint. He often said that Love was one of the most often used but misunderstood words in human experience. What Love brings to mind for most of us is that first kiss with our high school sweetheart, or meeting our spouse-to-be for the first time.

When we “fall in Love” there is a real chemical cocktail that is uncorked, poured into our blood, and we feel high, giddy , and for a time, the world is a blissful place. We see our beloved bathed in Love-colored hues, and he/she is perfect. I’ve often thought if they could put this into a pill, we’d have a drug problem of horrendous proportions!

Lester said that human Love is totally different from the way a Master defines Love, which is the real Love of Beingness/God. He said that human Love is a very limited thing. “You do this for me, and I will Love you.” I, in turn will do that for you, and you will Love me. In Latin, we use the term :Quid Pro Quo, or “this for that”.

There is the law of mutuality always running, and this so called Love due is partly a type of human arrangement for some kind of desired result. It could be a planned family, a promising business future, or a myriad of other lustful fantasies. There may or may not work out, and even if they do, there is no guarantee that Love, Inc. will survive.

After all, the reminder of that drug is always on our minds, and that is why we hear about so much infidelity and affairs. The same person who incited that cocktail just can’t do it any more. Sound familiar? On to what Lester had to say.

At a New York City impromptu short lecture Lester gave, he made this powerful statement, “LOVE, LOVE, LOVE, and you’ll you be so happy…and healthy…and prosperous!” How could that be? The secret lies in Lester’s definition of Love. “Love is total selflessness.” Wanting for the other one what he/she wants for themselves (not what we want).

Love is someone knowing that “I AM YOU.” Those reading this who are Sedona Method grads will remember that on the feeling chart, Love is very high, in ACCEPTANCE, right below total PEACE.

So, we need to query ourselves, “Am I really loving?” Probably not, most of the time. When we Love our pets or someone’s newborn infant, we feel this Love. Lester said that Love is Giving, with no thought of Receiving, wanting nothing from the other one. Difficult? Not really, according to Lester. He said, “Loving people is the easiest thing to do.”

Then why does it seem so hard to Love people? How many of you have heard others say, “If only people were as easy to Love as dogs.”

The reason for that is simple. We don’t want Love from them, just for them to be there when we get home, wag their tails or purr, take walks with us, etc., and Love us for what we are, not what we are not. They don’t remember our scolding yesterday, or that we forgot their favorite cookies. They exist in the NOW moment.

We humans have a hard time loving people because we fear rejection. We put up walls around ourselves to protect us from any more hurt and to buffer the pain we are sure is to come. We want Love instead of feeling safe to give Love. Lester said “Wanting equates to not having.” So when we want Love, we create the opposite, or rejection.

Lester was often heard to say, “Every feeling is a non-Love feeling.” Fear, Pride, Grief, Apathy, etc. are all expressions of non-Love. So when we release the Wanting Love program, it takes thousands of non-Love feelings with it! There resides the incredible power of the Sedona Method (Release Technique).

Lester told me if I became totally loving by using his technique, all my goals would just drop in by a mere effortless thought. Why? Because it is such a high state, you are in tune with the Whole Universe, which is ALL LOVING.

When the mind is quiet with no thoughts and feelings, all the power of one’s Self is available, untethered by the baggage of the past (the programs). The Big 3 Master Programs are released with the Sedona Method Release Technique Course.

Getting back to Lester’s statement at the lecture, if we would Love all the time, we would achieve a very successful and happy life. Loving totally would amazingly give us all the knowledge we seek as well. So what keeps us from doing this? Just holding on to non-Love feelings we think will protect us, but in fact cause us trouble.

The very fear of rejection causes us to be rejected. Anger at him/her for something said causes us to create the same thing over again with someone else! Also, because Love is such a high state, it automatically will bring up all the AGFLAP, or non-Love feelings, just as wording a goal in a high energy.

Once while in Sedona for an intensive, I made a goal, “I decide to Love people no matter what.” It stirred me up so badly I became violently ill and threw up for days. Lester nearly yelled at me, “Why did you stop releasing? You could have gone free!” We don’t like the insecure or rejected feelings, so we slow our progress down.

If you remember a time you were truly happy, you were most likely feeling very loving. Is it true? Maybe you were helping in a selfless way, or maybe giving a gift to someone you really wanted to make happy. You might have been teaching a child to ride a bike the first time or enjoying a video game with him.

A good exercise is to go back and find times when you were happy and investigate with the Method what got in the way. Or during the day, when someone does something to bother you, see if you can release and Love them anyway. You will find yourself lighter and happier, freer and freer.

Remember as Lester said, “LOVE LOVE LOVE, and you’ll be so happy….and healthy…and prosperous!!!”

Robert Elias Najemy asked:


Spiritual Universal Love - Part 5 of 5

A later stage in our spiritual maturation process is the development of spiritual universal love where wisdom or spiritual discrimination is now added to our love. We now perceive all forms as various manifestations of one unchanging, ever blissful, divine consciousness.

In this state we experience pure love in which we cannot distinguish between the other and ourselves. Christ referred to this state saying, “I am in you and you are in me.”

Although, as in the previous stage, we continue to help and serve wherever we can, we are not so affected by the pain and suffering we encounter. We realize that the real spiritual consciousness expressing itself through that form has chosen to pass through that experience because it is exactly the next stimulus, which he or she needs for his or her spiritual growth process. We are now aware that we are all passing through the precise experiences, pleasant and unpleasant, which we need in order to wake up from our dream of this illusory material reality.

Although we are not affected by the suffering we see, we are even more wholly dedicated toward eliminating it. Thus, we love and accept all beings as they are while we direct our energies toward facilitating this process of our mutual spiritual unfoldment. Each of us moves forward in his or her own unique way.

Previously we may have tried to solve people’s problems for them. Now we realize that the most effective way we can others is to love and accept them as they are and empower them to find their own inner wisdom and strength in order to overcome their problems.

We now realize that the main solution for the world’s economic, political and social problems is education.

We experience such “wise love” or “loving wisdom” from the highest spiritual teachers. It is sometimes difficult to understand their love and caring, which at times to the beginner, may seem like indifference, especially when we pass through tests and expect sympathy and emotional reactions.

It is difficult for some to realize that it is sometimes more loving to allow someone to suffer a little more so he or she can find the solution him or herself and grow stronger and freer from ignorance. Only a realized being can know, however, when “not to help” externally because this would be the most loving act for a specific person.

Many parents would do well to learn this form of wise love. They might help their children far more if they refrain from solving their problems every time they are in trouble.

No one should, however, misconceive that this text is suggesting that we should not help those who are in need. We must help, but we must also ask ourselves what the most appropriate help would be in each situation.

The greatest and most precious help we can offer to those we love, is to help them get in touch with their inner power and wisdom. This, at times, means helping, and at others, means letting them struggle by themselves while we mentally pray for them and visualize them in light.

For an awakened spiritual being to see someone cry about some unhappy event in his or her life or fear some future possibility, might be like our watching a small child cry about a toy that has broken or express fear of the “boogie man.” We sympathize with and understand the child’s feelings. We love it and we want to help it, but we cannot really be worried.

Those who experience this level of love sometimes do not exhibit the emotional display which others may be used to interpreting as indications of love. As we grow spiritually, we begin to understand, however, that real love is a love for the soul within the other, which is seeking to free itself from ignorance and the illusion of weakness and fear.

These spiritually awakened beings offer help on other levels through their positive thought forms, prayers or sometimes, direct contact on the astral level, usually in dreams.

In this way, help is given without undermining the others’ self-confidence.

Loving the Wave or the Ocean

Part 6 of a 6 part series on the “The Stages of Love”

Robert Elias Najemy

When we limit our love to a specific person (we do not mean sexually, but rather emotionally, mentally and spiritually), it is difficult to experience love in its highest expression. We love this person and not others. We tend to focus on a specific person, “loving” them often because they offer us security, pleasure or affirmation; or because we consider them to be “ours.”

Pure love is universal. It can express itself toward any particular being, but it cannot limit itself to that being or group of beings. If it does, then it is love mixed with conditions. Each individual is one of the countless waves on an ocean of consciousness. The ocean is the One Universal Consciousness, which is temporarily taking the form of those specific waves and then disappearing into the formlessness of the ocean again before reappearing as billions of others. All waves are expressions of the one ocean.

When we single out one specific wave from the ocean of beings and limit our love to that, we are, in essence, loving an illusion. That being which we love is just a temporary manifestation of the one Universal Being, which manifests as all the other beings simultaneously.

That form on which we focus is a temporary physical, emotional, mental manifestation that will dissolve back into the ocean. When we love the water in that wave, that is, its spiritual essence, the spirit within, we begin to love all waves. The same water is in all the waves. The same spiritual essence is in all beings.

Then we love the spiritual essence in others and not only their form or the specific benefits that we receive from them. We love the spirit within.

Our love now becomes both unconditional and universal. It is unconditional because it does not depend on what others do or do not do, and universal because we start to love more and more people independent of their appearance, character and other superficial factors. We love the spirit within them. We as spirit are one with the spirit, which is within them.

So we can love the wave or we can love the ocean and thus all the waves. This is our choice.

Love is like the gold ore that is brought up from the earth; it is mixed with other metals (emotions, needs). Our job is to purify that gold through our efforts to love unconditionally in all of our relationships, no matter what the other does or does not do.

Only then will we truly be happy. Only then will experience our true Self.

Be sure to look for the remaining the parts of this series:

1. What is Love ? 2. Love or Need for Security ? 3. Love, Pleasure or Affirmation? 4. Selfless Love 5. Spiritual Universal Love

Julie Farha asked:


Here it is, another Valentine’s day around the corner. A time to take stock the love in your life. Or the lack of love in your life if that is how you see things.

We spend so much time and energy searching for love. Single people can be zeroed in on “finding” love and coupled folks are constantly looking for signs that their significant other really does love them.

What we are really searching for is some indication that we are loved. We look to others to show us that we are lovable and to validate that we are loved. Well, guess what? We are loved. Always, all the time, no matter what, period.

Our journey is to understand that we are loved so that we can then focus on being loving. Being loving to everyone and everything around us. Yeah, that sounds schmaltzy but it’s true. It doesn’t mean to like everyone all the time and to enjoy every situation or circumstance of life. But when you know you are loved, you are more loving and understanding in every relationship and in every circumstance. That is a gift to everyone you crosses your path.

We seem so focused on the object of love, for example, the person with whom we are in a relationship. We spend so much time wondering, “Do they love me?” “Am I good enough for them to love me?” “Am I valuable enough deserve their love?” So much attention is given to this that we often miss the experience and the gifts of the relationship. Even if that relationship doesn’t last a lifetime, there are still many gifts in the enounter. Many times, the outcome of the relationship is more important to someone than the journey of the experience. So much is missed when we do this.

Truth is, we never really lose love. The object of love may go away but love never does. It comes from Source and Source never dies. It lives and breathes, is constant yet not necessarily consistent. It may change form or appearance but it is always the energy of love and it is available everywhere you look. First we must look within.

That old cliché of loving self first before someone else can love you…. Makes you want to gag but it is truth. Connect with yourself and your Self and expand that love. We fear losing love because we believe that it comes from outside sources. This is a lie. When you deepen your love of Self, the fear lessens because you know you are filled with love, you are more connected to Source and you know you are loved and lovable. You understand your own worth and value and you no longer need to have it “given” to you.

As you do this, you are able to spend more time being loving to others. Your relationships, friendships, etc are more rooted in the experience of being together, learning, sharing, enjoying each other and less about the outcome of the situation… marriage, friendship instead of romantic, etc.

How do you connect with your love of self? First, be aware of your self talk. Make a list of what you say to yourself. Do you say things like “I am so stupid!” “I can’t believe I did that!” We tend to be very self critical so, chances are you have some negative self talk. Create an awareness of this and stop the comments when they surface.

Connect with your gifts and use them often. Do things that make you happy and bring you a sense of peace. Write, paint, play with your pets or children, cook, whatever suits you. Taking time for you means you are honoring yourself and therefore loving yourself. If you don’t do this much, take a note of that and make some changes.

Spend more time with people who lift you and less time with those who bring you down. Take care of your body and spirit. Eat good foods. Exercise. Try yoga or tai chi. Meditate 10 minutes a day. Take a walk in nature. Take a long bath. Laugh all the time. Take care of you and you will expand your self love.

A woman was in a relationship recently and her partner moved thousands of miles away to take a job. She said that the last few weeks of their time together were the best ever. They got on beautifully, really enjoyed each other and were completely immersed in the love they shared. She didn’t understand why it was so good now that he was moving. It pained her that he had to go when their relationship had evolved to this state.

Here’s what happened: they let go of the fear of losing love because he was leaving. The object of love was being removed. They both knew it was going to happen and even had a date it was to take place. There was no fear of “is she leaving me?” “Does he really love me?” As a result, they had let go of the fear of losing the love and were able to totally relax into the experience. Her partner moved away and the love is still there. The love never left although the object is gone. THAT is the gift every relationship has to offer, regardless of the outcome.

The gift of love’s various expressions is available to all of us all of the time, to enjoy and embrace. Yet it must start with you. So, love yourself a little more. Have less fear of losing something you can never lose anyway. Enjoy each relationship for the gifts and magic it has to offer. Especially the relationship you have with you.

Happy Valentine’s Day!

Self love forms the foundation of your single, most important relationship - that with yourself. The strength of all your other relationships is exactly equal to the strength of that foundation. To love yourself is not simply a self esteem boosting piece of advice. It is the prerequisite to truly loving others. The golden rule tells us to “love your neighbour as you love yourself”. You are likely to have heard it many times, expressed in different ways, thinking it is about loving others. Look a little closer though and you will find that at its very center is the command to love yourself.

The Mistaken Identity of Self Love: Let us first dispel some myths about what it means to love yourself. Self love is not about being arrogant, selfish, self-centered or egotistical. It is not about comparing yourself to others to determine if you are good enough. It is not about always putting yourself first. It is not about always getting your way. It is not about always winning. It is not about “only looking after number one”.

Will the Real Self Love Please Stand Up: To love yourself is to be in awe of the miracle of your existence. It is to accept yourself as you are - the light parts and the dark - and to love them both equally. It is to be willing to receive as much as you are willing to give and do both equally. It is about knowing your values and your boundaries and honouring them. It is about teaching others how to treat you by showing them how you treat yourself. It is about being kind to yourself. It is about looking after your mind, your body and your spirit - all three. It is about knowing you are worth it, not because of what you have achieved or what you look like or what others think of you, but because love is your birthright no matter what.

What Do You Most Need to Hear: Take a moment to think of those things you most need to hear from others. Whether it be that they love you, or admire you, or accept you just as you are, or appreciate you, or forgive you. Take a piece of paper and write them down. Make sure to exhaust your list. You will find that what you most want to hear from others is what you most need to tell yourself. You should now have a thorough list of positive affirmations tailor made for you. Repeat them every day, morning and night and you will soon discover a sense of self love and inner peace you never had before.

You Can Only Give That Which You Possess: It is an obvious statement that you cannot give something that you do not possess, yet so many people desperately love others without having or giving love to themselves. It is little wonder that in time there reserves of love are exhausted and their relationships falter. To give love you must first have love. To have love, love yourself. Only then will you be able to truly love others for the pure joy of loving them. Give the love you wish to experience to yourself and you will find all your relationships transform in miraculous ways.

There is But One Source of All Love: There is a single, intelligent Consciousness that pervades the entire Universe - all knowing, all powerful, all loving, all creative and present everywhere at the same time. It is the Universal Mind. It is the Source of All Love. It is Love. When you know and understand the Truth that you are one with the One Source of All Love - that your very essence is love - then you will have discovered unconditional self love and unlimited reserves for everyone and everything. You will know that to love yourself is to love the One Creator.

The Benefits of Loving Yourself: Self love is a win-win for all. It provides you with an inner happiness, confidence and peace of mind that is not easily swayed by outside events and opinions. It enables you to make healthier choices and the best decisions across all areas of your life from your intimate relationships to your finances. It allows you to truly rejoice in other people’s good fortune rather than wondering “why, not me” or even resenting it. It enables you to be more genuinely loving towards others and to be of greater service to the world at large. Ultimately, the more you love yourself, the more every thing and every one you encounter benefits. 

In a nutshell, loving yourself is a prerequisite to loving others. Your relationships are only as strong as the foundation of your self love. Release any belief you may hold that loving yourself is selfish or egotistical and replace it with the Truth that your very essence is love, that unconditional self love is your birthright. When you know that you are one with the One Source of All Love, that you are connected to every thing and every one, you will know that you cannot possibly experience true love without first loving yourself. You will have discovered the Truth that self love is truly the greatest love of all.



By: Tania Kotsos

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